Let's Get Real: Unpacking Authenticity in Everyday Life
In today's society, the word "authenticity" has become a buzzword, constantly thrown around in conversations, social media posts, and marketing campaigns. It seems like everyone strives to be authentic, and yet, amidst the clamor of its repeated use, the true meaning of authenticity often gets lost.
What does it really mean to be authentic?
Is it about being true to oneself, transparent, or simply adhering to societal expectations?
The reality is that while people frequently use the word "authenticity," the understanding of its essence can remain elusive, leaving us questioning whether we are truly able to grasp the concept. In the world of psychology, it's not just about being honest or genuine. Authenticity takes on many layers of meaning, depending on who you ask.
To help understand what authenticity means to you, here are five quick takes on authenticity in the field of psychology, breaking them down in a way that makes sense for our daily lives. Though each theory has its upsides and downsides, they allow each of us to reflect on the complexities of living an authentic life.
#1. Be Your Best Self
Have you ever felt like there's a "best version" of yourself that you want to reach? That's a bit like what psychologist Abraham Maslow was talking about when he described "self-actualization." He believed that we all have unique capabilities, and when we tap into these, we're living authentically.
For example, imagine you're really talented at music but you're stuck in a finance job. You decide to take the leap and go all-in with your musical talent. That's you being your most authentic self.
The upside? It nudges us to grow and make the most of our potential.
The downside? It kind of assumes everyone has their basic needs met and can focus on self-actualization, which isn't the case for everyone, especially folks in disadvantaged situations.
#2. Stand Out and Fit In
Think about those times when you've wanted to fit in but also stand out. It's like wanting to be part of a group, yet also show your uniqueness. That's what psychologist Marilyn Brewer calls "optimal distinctiveness" related to the authentic self.
Suppose you're someone who loves expressing your creative side but you're also part of a larger, traditional society. You might feel most "you" when you're balancing your unique creative expression and fitting into the broader society.
The upside? This theory appreciates that our social lives shape our identities.
The downside? Finding that sweet spot between fitting in and standing out can be tough. You don't want to lose yourself trying to belong or isolate yourself just to be distinctive.
#3. Follow Your Heart
Have you ever felt like you're going against the grain of what society expects of you? That's you being authentic, according to psychologists Richard Ryan and Edward Deci. They believe authenticity is about making decisions that sync with your own values and interests, not someone else's.
For instance, say you ditch the pressures of a high-paying job and follow your passion for social work instead. That's the kind of authenticity Ryan and Deci are talking about.
The upside? It's all about empowering you to live your life, your way.
The downside? Sometimes, societal structures or constraints can limit our ability to exercise full autonomy, making authenticity feel out of reach.
#4. Walk Your Talk
Ever had moments when you feel like you're living in line with your beliefs? Psychologists Wood, Linley, Maltby, Baliousis, and Joseph reckon that's a big part of being authentic. They've even created an "Authenticity Scale" to measure this!
Imagine you're passionate about the environment, so you decide to lead a minimalist lifestyle, rejecting consumerism. That's living authentically, according to this team.
The upside? This perspective highlights the role of our personal values in shaping our lives. The downside? It sort of assumes that our values are fully formed and static, not considering that they might change over time.
#5. Aim for Aligned Goals
Last but not least, authenticity is about setting and chasing goals that align with your true interests and values, as per Sheldon and Elliot's Self-Concordance Theory.
Let's say you've always wanted to become a nurse because of a deep desire to care for others, not because your family pressured you into it. According to Sheldon and Elliot, you're acting authentically.
The upside? This theory pushes us to align our actions with personal values, making us feel satisfied and motivated.
The downside? It can be hard to distinguish between self-chosen and externally influenced goals, particularly in cultures where collective values are prominent.
All in all, these five different takes on authenticity serve as reminders that being true to yourself, maintaining your autonomy, and aligning your actions with your values are key to living authentically and, ultimately, feeling fulfilled. I encourage you to keep exploring these concepts, understanding their interplay, and considering how they fit into your unique cultural and societal context.
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